It is with much sadness I share news of the untimely death of poet and friend Monica Hand. The world has lost a lovely human being and phenomenal poet, writer and artist. It’s difficult to believe Monica has made such a sudden transition. Monica Hand was a beloved mother, grandmother, friend and educator.
I’m grateful for the times we shared. She was warm and kind. I have memories of sharing the same space at poetry gatherings and conversations and laughter. Once we took a photo together and bursted into laughter, admiring ourselves.She was respected and appreciated by her peers and those who knew her. Monica Hand left an imprint on the world, one which will be shared and remembered by generations to come.
I’m reminded of my own mortality and how unexpected death is. I’m in a state of deep reflection. I’m feeling a sense of urgency, the desire to get things done. There is no time for procrastination. There is no time to waste on things which are unimportant, nor to indulge nonsense. There is only time for embracing those we love, respect and appreciate. There is only time for appreciating and celebrating life. This is the time to focus on people and things that give our lives meaning, joy and purpose. My prayers and condolences to Monica’s loved ones. May she rest in peace, power and poetry.
Give yourself permission to grieve.
What is Grief?
Grief is a strong, sometimes overwhelming emotion for people, regardless of whether their sadness stems from the loss of a loved one, or news of a terminal diagnosis they or someone they love have received.
They might find themselves feeling numb and removed from daily life, unable to carry on with regular duties while saddled with their sense of loss.
Grief is the natural reaction to loss. Grief is both a universal and a personal experience. Individual experiences of grief vary and are influenced by the nature of the loss. Some examples of loss include the death of a loved one, friend, the ending of an important relationship, job loss, loss through theft or the loss of independence through disability.
Experts advise those grieving to realize they can’t control the process and to not avoid the feelings resulting from loss. Talking to others can help. Sharing grief can be cathartic. Do not isolate yourself.
Mourning can last for months or years. Generally, pain is tempered as time passes and as the bereaved adapts to life without a loved one, to the news of a terminal diagnosis or to the notion that someone they love may and has died. We all mourn differently.
Do not hesitate to consult with a professional trained in grief and bereavement.
Please go to her GoFundMe Page to share your love for Monica: Monica Hand
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